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I can't think of any one thing in childhood, but I have never wanted children. While one sister, in particular, only dreamed of growing up and being a mommy, and many of our friends did, too, I considered such an idea for me as horrific.

Doctors tell me that I'd regret having my tubes tied but I'd just assume haul them out as I don't plan on ever using them.

As an adult, my reasons for not wanting a child formed. Being a mother is the highest calling a woman can have and I shudder at that responsibility. It's not that I don't like responsibility; I just don't want to be responsible for giving birth to another Osama bin Laden or Adolf Hitler. Even the best upbringings churn out evil adults, and god forbid that should be me! (Yes, I understand that raising a monster is not a given, but what if? I couldn't handle that.) My family has genetic medical issues that I can't imagine passing on to another human being.

When I held my oldest niece for the first time, I felt, for the first and only time, a twinge of wanting a baby of my own. I've got my nieces and nephew; I can leave my mark on the world through them. I don't need my own children!

I consider myself to be very lucky in that I grew up in a loving and close-knit community. My parents did everything they can for us, and all I have are wonderful memories of my childhood. It was probably in my late teens when I somehow felt that children were not for me and since then I have had no regrets. My sister has always wanted to be a mother and now she has two beautiful little girls. I am my sister's only sibling and so naturally, I am my niece's only aunt on this side of the family so for that, it makes my relationship with them extra special.
It does upset me sometimes when mothers look at me as if I'm damaged. They think I'm defective because I don't have a children without realizing that it is by choice.

I had a lovely childhood. My parents were both loving and kind. My sister loves kids and has four children to whom I adore being an aunt. I, however, have chosen to remain child free. Having and raising children is a huge responsibility and is something I believe should be taken very seriously. The decision to have children should be thought about carefully. I have no regrets about my decision and am quite happy. Some are okay with my choice, but most of time people just don't seem to understand.

Wonderful posts! I enjoyed them all!

I decided not to have children when I was about 5. I have a younger brother who is ADHD and a younger sister. My parents always seemed stressed and overwhelmed. I was annoyed a lot by my siblings and resented the time constraints my parents had from juggling three children. I spent a lot of my childhood taking care of my siblings. I figure I was already a mom!

I have realized I am unable to do many things well. I need to focus or I feel out of control and unhappy. My husband is self employed so our fiances can vary, I know I am going to work until retirement. I am not sure I can work full time AND raise children. If I decided to have children I would want to give them all of my attention. There are so much to worry over!

I have 5 nieces and 4 nephews from age 19-1 My sister is planning to get pregnant again this year, my stepsister is pregnant now....so I have more coming! I have a darling godson and his mom is planning to have another this year.
I don't know how they do it all, but I am sure it's not for me!!!!

If I won the lotto and could have a lot of help, I might reconsider! LOL!
As for now, I will enjoy our playground time, prom dress shopping and science project making.....and then they can go home!

Growing up, I just assumed that someday I would get married and have kids. That's just what women do, right? But the older I got, the more I realized that having kids just wasn't for me. No real reason. Maybe it's because I'm a teacher and have over 100 kids on a day to day basis. Maybe it's because my husband is just NOT a kid person. But really, like BklynPeach said, I just don't have a real desire to be a mom. For me, being an Auntie is exactly what I've wanted. I try to explain to other people that while many women have a great desire to be a mom, I had that same desire to be an aunt. Just the way I am, I guess...and I'm happy that way :)